He is being a cheat!

Quick guide on what to look out for if you think you are being played. 

But before I begin I have to say that you will never know! The one you are with can love you and be with you and have normal behaviour but also have an affair on the side or some sort of infidelity going on. You can’t just rely on these hints. Sometimes you will never know. Trust your sixth sense and sometimes it’s just better to be honest and ask face-to-face if you think something is going on.

last minute plans

These plans, that he didn’t have when you asked about what he was going to be doing earlier on this morning. But a “mate” just got in touch and they are meeting up.

If, when you ask he doesn’t want to talk about it as much as he would do when he would really go with his mates then he is probably lying, straight to your face.

Defensive attitude

If when asking him about his day to day and the things he used to say to you don’t make sense and you happen to question it and instead of just talking about it, he gets his defensive shield on, then probably something is going on here. 

But might as well just had a rough day but if he just keeps on doing it then, someone is being played, and it’s certainly not me.

it’s not you, it’s me

If he recites this exact line, you can imagine what’s going on. 

Like, really? Of course, it’s not me! It’s you but really what’s up with you? 

Please tell me more and don’t just drop that line and expect everything to be fine.

This chat lacks imagination and that’s what a guy will say when there is someone else but clearly don’t want to hurt your feelings. Ironic. They already hurt you by stabbing that dagger right into your heart. Next time dude, come up with something creative – A unicorn ate my penis, I can’t be with you anymore.

Being skint

He’s been secretive about his transactions and when getting together he's suggesting to do things that don’t involve much money although from past experiences you know he should have money to go out on fun dates with you but this time around there isn’t much explanation about it

Okay, fair enough if he is skint all the time, this doesn’t apply. But, if he is saying how skint he is already when he just got paid not long ago and hasn’t really bought anything significant or hasn’t really been spending much money when you guys are together, then that’s something to look out for. He is spending it with other girls and they aren’t you.

Lack of interest

When you are in a relationship and he is putting off sleeping with you by giving you all the poor excuses in order not to. Then be suspicious and keep an eye out. 

I am no expert but guess what? Maybe he booked in to get checked, so had to wait for the appointment. And then, another week to get results back, so that’s a total of 2 weeks he’s been trying to avoid you because he has slept with someone else, and yes, that wasn’t you.

But this only applies to people who are in a stable relationship and live wild, you know what I mean.

advice

Don’t take these hints to heart.

Keeping his transactions secretive could also mean he is planning a romantic trip to Paris with accommodation in a 5-star hotel near La Seine, 2 tickets to Disney Land Paris, Picnic near La Tour Eiffel and a bottle of Krug to celebrate your love. You won’t know until you know.

Some of these don’t apply to some couples, but if you see a shift in patterns and he doesn’t want to talk about it then probably keep an eye peeled. If you are in a relationship you will want to share your personal growth and not hide it away because you are being shady with someone else.

And to conclude, you will never know if you are being played because guess what? He won’t come and say it to your face. And you can’t just start questioning everything because you need trust and in relationships, trust is everything. 

And remember, don’t do anything I wouldn’t do!


Here I got some facts for you, all scientifically backed up, keep on reading 25 Scientific Facts About Cheating & Why People Cheat

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Opinions expressed are solely my own and do not express the views or opinions of my University