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Friends with benefits...?


Quick guide on what to expect when a friend’s w/ benefits starts to flourish. Watch out for these signs and know where you are at.

Again, you know me, delivering the information and being brutally honest about it. Keep reading for this quick guide on friend’s w/ benefits. 


DOESN’T KNOW MUCH ABOUT YOU  
You probably know more about him than what he does about you. He is most likely to just want to keep it that way, not knowing what your favourite colour is or what you like to eat for breakfast. You probably don’t want to know about him either.

CASUAL CONVERSATIONS
He sure doesn’t ask about what you were up to last night and sure is not interested in knowing. Keeping it just to what it is, he doesn’t want to get involved in anything emotional, he is just there to relieve his sexual frustrations and you seem a good partner to that with, don’t over think it, it is what it seems.

DOESN’T TO GET BACK TO YOU
He is probably just not interested to keep in touch with you, after all there shouldn’t be any emotional connection besides just finding each other attractive to get on with from time to time. That’s one of the reasons he doesn’t reply straight away, and the second, he is probably just busy getting on with life. Don’t overthink it, get on with your life too.




JUST IN TOUCH WHEN WANTING TO MEET UP
Whoosh, is that a notification? Did he just messaged asking when you are free next week? You know what he is after and that’s the reason he just texted you. He goes straight to the point, none of that sugar coating, he doesn’t care about anything else he wants to spend a nice time with you whenever you are both free.


STRAIGHT TO THE POINT
You can get in touch too, just as long as it’s sex what you are after and not a candle-lit dinner followed by a romantic bath with roses scattered on the floor and Moët & Chandon in your flutes. If so, then you are texting the wrong guy. They will let you know when is good for them to meet up, that’s a sign you know what’s coming up.


NOT IN TOUCH ENOUGH
If you both have been on a date and he hasn’t gotten back in touch in the next couple of days to schedule another one with you but he does within a week, it looks like it’s heading in the friend’s w/ benefit direction. Well if that’s the case and not because he’s been away from town, then that leaves you with a decision to make, do you want to head in that direction? 


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